Thursday, June 10, 2010

Last blog and Goodbye....

OK I know that i will get too emotional if I spend too long writing this last blog. I am sorry I couldn't explain it earlier, but I needed to take the blog down while I thought about how best to say goodbye. Some of you have become my friends and will hopefully remain my friends. I am not going anywhere, I always had this totally weird superstition that if I stopped the blog that Mr Big would die or something, but he's fine and in good health and happy, as am I. There just comes a time to end everything, "you have to know when to leave the fair" as someone very wise once told us.And that time is now. It doesn't really matter why. I do feel as though I am repeating myself and don't have much new to say excapt that love and friends are the most important thing and to value them and cherish them with all your heart and soul. Nature abhors a vacumn so I know that the space left by writing this will be filled with other things.
All my friends, you have supported and loved me through some amazing years and times and ups and downs, and whenever I have reached out to you have always been there for me. My email will stay the same clare_staples@yahoo.co.uk if you want to keep in touch. Please feel free to write a comment here to say bye to Biggie and please stay in touch, you mean and have meant so much to us.
I got this wonderful poem written by my friend Yvonne Lewis and it summed up what I would like to say way better than I ever could.....on behalf of Mr Big, who is the most wonderful dog in the world, I say adios too and hope that you had as much fun with this as I did.

ADIOS MR. BIG.

Your blogs have brightened my pc
For many, many a day.
Your words of inspiration,
Have helped me along life's way.

Although I'm positive in my outlook
I too get days of strife.
But just reading of your escapades
Very often changed my life.

You have many loving friends
That think the world of you.
I'm sure where e're you are
The sun comes shining through.

As you proceed with the rest of your life,
I know your judgement is honest and fair,
Just for good measure, you wonderful treasure,
Please give my regards to Clare.

You are a GREAT DANE in a million
Affectionate, loyal and true.
May the rest of your life be fortuitous,
Reading blogs won't be the same without you.

Wednesday, June 02, 2010

Generosity......

So Paul's return was delayed by a day because he didn't get his passport in time, but he'll be home tomorrow and I can wait that long I guess. When Paul is back in London he spends the whole time running around trying to see people and spend time and also help people. One of the most amazing qualities about Paul is his generosity. He has true generosity of spirit, or his time, of his skills, I have never in all my life here on earth as a dog met somebody more generous. He really is amazing. Because in these times it is so so easy to be selfish and self absorbed and self obsessed and not even notice other's and what they might be going through, but Paul always makes time for others and I think I really do admire and respect and love him even more for that. I am not the most generous person in the world but it does inspire me to try to be more generous, we all could be more generous I think. As somebody wiser than I once said.... “Do all the good you can, By all the means you can, In all the ways you can, In all the places you can, At all the times you can, To all the people you can, As long as ever you can.”
Meanwhile, back at the ranch, well the fast went on for five days and now Clare is doing a 3 day kind of reintroduction of foods, so today is a lot of orange juice and Vegetable soup that the wonderful Tasha made for them both. Weirdly they both have so much energy, as you can see from the photos, Clare's literally head over heels.... They were really proud to have achieved their goal of five days, and it's probably best they don't do anymore or they'd disappear, Clare already lost ten pounds, which I think should go back on when she starts to eat again. they really didn't do it to lose weight, just to clean everything out, which I definitely think it did. The great thing about the cleanse is that after it you don't feel like putting junk in your body again, you want to keep it clean and nice, or so they tell me :)
Over the weekend Clare had so many invitations to go to barbeque's and cook-outs and she didn't go to any of them. I think it would have been hard being around food when you're not eating. So instead we had the laziest weekend of all time and stayed at home watching the silliest chick movies of all time. It was perfect. Most nights we were in bed by 9.30 and asleep moments later. We hiked with Lu parker and her dog Monkey and we saw lots of Tash and then Clare spent the rest of the time doing this hilarious scavenger hunt where she and a friend came up with 26 photos they had to take and send to each other within the week. It is still going on, and has been quite hilarious. It's such a fun idea when you're not in the same place as someone else but want to be silly together anyways. We all find ways to connect even when the other person is far away and this is such a fun way. I did sneak a look at the list and one of the items involves dressing one of the dogs up and it sure as heck isn't going to be me.....Bentley better watch out on that one.....will let you know how it turns out and remember....“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children...to leave the world a better place...to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”

Friday, May 28, 2010

Cleanse....

OK so I don't want to bore you all with each day of Clare's cleanse. Bentley and I originally took cover but she seems fine and happy and mellow. She and tasha are texting each other for support and helpful hints and so far so good. Apparently it doesn't taste too bad and actually does kill the hunger pangs and feels pretty good. So I shall keep you posted. The girls had fun this morning making the first batch. Tash brough Sam over. Sam is Bentley's girlfriend so the moment she arrived he went all loopy loo running around after her. He is definitely in puppy love. It's cute to watch. He brought her his toy to play with and then just followed her around trying to kiss her face. I love that first bit. When you just meet someone and you have nothing but high hopes and butterflies and can't stop smiling and it seems as though the sun is shining brighter and birds are singing louder. It's the best feeling in the world and I totally understand why people do the things they do for love. It can come out of nowhere when you're least expecting it. So Bentley is happy and so is Sam, I'll keep you updated about their romance.
So Paul left yesterday and flew back to London. Which is always a bit sad. We all miss him and his happy energy. But he'll be back in less than a week and it's probably better that he is away while Clare does the fast. I am not sure he would approve. So we are falling back on hanging out with the girls. Which is just about the best fun you can have (without boys).
Four of us are going to see Sex and The City 2 tomorrow, Clare, Tasha, Emma and .... someone else .....and we cannot wait to see it. I love the clothes and they're such fun. I think we'll see it at The Grove and maybe do a little shopping while we're there. Proper girl stuff.
This afternoon, Emma came over to lay out by the pool and get a little colour for the summer. She brought dogs and a whole lot of support and distraction to get Clare through another afternoon of not eating. She was a little ambitious this morning and went to yoga but had to leave after 45 minutes as she felt a little faint. Aside from that it was all good. The best way to get through anything hard is surround yourself with great girls so it looks like that's going to be the order of the day for this memorial day weekend. Will keep you posted. OH AND MOST IMPORTANTLY THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU TO ALL THAT SENT EMAILS AND POSTED SUPPORT ON CLARE'S WALL AND SENT TEXTS TO ENCOURAGE HER, YOU GUYS ARE THE BEST. LOVE LOVE LOVE XXX

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Healthy days.....

So there seems to be a bout of healthiness going on in this house right now. Clare obviously hikes every morning but has recently discovered the new Nike thing that you put in your shoe and link to your ipod. So now our hikes have become competitive as she is always trying to burn more calories or mainly do more distance. The music plays on shuffle and then a ladies voice interrupts all time telling us the distance and calorie count. You can even compete against other people so we challenge Natasha and that really helps. Clare also has a new private yoga teacher called Camilla, who is swedish and amazing and is changing her life. She even breathes differently and definitely seems calmer and more chilled.And then tomorrow she has lost her mind entirely, and as Paul has gone away for a week, she is doing the master cleanse with Tasha. They basically are going to drink only lemonade, cayenne pepper, maple syrup and water for a few days (she has a goal of five days) but who knows how long this could last - five hours possibly. So they have all the equipment and ingredients and they are raring to go. Will let you know as it goes on just how hard it is and how good. I worry not eating is going to make her a little grumpy so Bentley and I are staying under the couch for the first few days to be safe.
So last night was the finale of American Idol. It was so good. Loved the Bee Gee's, Hall and Oates, Janet, Joe Cocker and when Brett Michaels came out the roof practically blew off. It was so good and of course we love us a little Casey James in the house haha. Love a Southern guy and he's from Cool Texas which sounds about as cool as you can get.
After the finale we headed over to Ceconni's for dinner with Simon, Ryan, Randy, and the girls, even Paula was there. We ate Truffle Pizza and stayed pretty late until we went on to the Idol aftershow party at The Mondrian. It was great spending the last night with all the boys together again. I am going to miss Simon so much. I actually got a little teary during the show and saying goodbye to him at the end of the night. I hate goodbye's the most.
So we ended up back at the house with some of my favourite girls, Kelly and Jamie were so awesome and cool, and I have to say there are not many girls beautiful enough to be able to hold their own in a photo with Raquel Welch but Kelly did. That woman is ridiculously beautiful. The girls ended up dancing round the living room and it was such a silly laugh but a perfect way to end the night.
It was all about the love, with a touch of drama on the side, but that's part of the fun too. Climbed into bed late but happy and so blessed to have all these wonderful friends......AGAIN, but really at the end of the day, what else is there. Love to all of you and help me through the cleanse with some encouraging emails haha xxxx

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Endings....and cool beginnings....

So this is a funny week. It seems like a week of season finales on TV and some other endings too. It seems so strange to think that it's Simon's last day on Idol today, it's the end of an era and we shall miss him terribly. Last night we went to the show and it was great to watch and be a part of it. The whole gang is in town so tonight should be a great night. After Idol we headed over to The Greek to watch Get Him To The Greek, Russell's premiere of his movie. It was really special watchng the movie at the place it was about and filmed at. Although nobody had told me it was outside so I was frozen and Clare had to cover me up with free promotional tshirts for the movie to keep the cold out :)
The funny thing is that both things were glamorous and fun, but as always the real fun, the amazing moments come from being with friends and sharing it all. It's only ever about being with the people you love and the lovely moments you have together, no matter how glamorous the surroundings. Clare bumped into one of her oldest and dearest friends Dawn Heuser. She and Dawn know each other through Tove and Nora and Ingrid and they all went on an incredibly memorable horse riding vacation in Colorado which is one of her happiest memories. She's a fabulous girl and now they're facebook friends. Clare never actually thought she would be that girl that yells "facebook me" across a movie theatre but there you go. It's a fabulous way to bring people together again. And then there was Sadie and Suze, Ollie and Chris, Nick and Sean, and of course Danny.
It was great to see Russell and Katy after and congratulate both on them on their work. They are just lovely, wonderful, awesome and such a talented couple and deserve all their success. Clare was particularly excited to meet and talk to 'Kenneth The Page' from her favourite show 30 Rock. He is her favourite character, well he's from Georgia :) and he makes her laugh more than anyone else on TV. It's funny because Clare has had Georgia on her mind a lot lately. I think she's finally ok and happy, all this time on, has moved on from the ex. I know it takes a while to get somebody out of your heart. She doesn't let people in there lightly and it really takes a long time for her to prise them out. I guess they're all still in there a little bit, but the feelings have gone, she doesn't think about him anymore and I think that big heart of hers is finally ready to let somebody else in there. So watch this space. I hope he has a dog :)
So tonight is Idol finale, so we shall tweet or facebook from there if we can. Bentleys followers have reached 30 and he is deliriously excited to have Ryan following him too........never in his wildest dreams did he think anybody would be interested in what a dog from Knoxville Tennessee had to say about life, love and lazing about.......thank you again. Go Leeeeeeee, just in case you're wondering who we're rooting for.......

Monday, May 24, 2010

Connect....

So we got up this morning to go on our hike and when we opened the garage doors and saw all the news trucks back again outside Brittany Murphy's house, my heart just sank. We could tell from the questions being shouted through the car windows that her poor husband had died last night and it was hard to drive and hard to just carry on as normal. I feel so sad for her mother and everything she has had to go through. The strangest thing that came into my mind was to "love your neighbour". It is so easy these days not to connect with people who are right next door. You mind your own business and shut your door and keep yourself to yourself, but sometimes it's important to take some care of the people close by to you. Extend the hand of friendship and compassion; but in some situations you don't know what to say, or whether to bother them, so you just say nothing. I think one of the biggest things we have lost is Community. Back in the old days, communities were communities and people looked out for one another and knew each other and rallied round the old and the weak and nowadays that is overlooked in our busy insular lives.
I think if there was one thing I would take from this, it's to try and take the time to meet and know the people living close to you. I remember when we lived in London, our flat was one of six in a building in Chelsea, but we rarely stopped to chat to our neighbours, we just passed each other on the stairs and nodded. Connection is everything in this world and it's important to make connections to make other people feel as though they are seen and heard and cared about and matter. That is so key to feeling a part of this world so let's all do what we can. All this technology for connection and what we really only know more about is how anonymous we are in the grand scheme of things. There are so many ways to connect with others nowadays and I think that's amazing. I have made some friendships on line with people all over the world and I treasure them. Facebook, twitter, BBM, Yahoo Messenger, Skype, text, phone and just saying "Hello how are you"......the more you do the better. “Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect.”
We had a nice weekend, dinner with Ryan Friday was the most fun ever, and then we spent the rest of the weekend saying goodbye to Kate and Rupert Friend and Sunday was Chris Dyson's birthday party at The Palihouse which was so much fun but now all seems quite a long time ago. It's a sad day, and I say a prayer and just appreciate all the little things just a little bit more today...“At different states in our lives, the signs of love may vary: dependence, attraction, contentment, worry, loyalty, grief, but at the heart, the source is always the same. Human beings have the rare capacity to connect with each other, against all odds.”

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Our House

So it's been a fabulous week. So much going on and all of it good. Funnily enough we've been very interested to watch the new Rolling Stones documentary about the making of Exile on Main Street. There is a connection to our house that's interesting, most of the album was made in the south of france at Nelcote but they finished the album in Los Angeles and during that stay they lived here in our house. Cocksucker Blues was shot here too, which was a banned black and white documentary made at that time. It's funny to see footage of Mick and the boys by the pool and hanging in the house and walking out of the front door which still looks exactly the same as it did then. I love stuff like that. We have the movie here and it's funny to watch it in the screening room in the same house it was filmed in. I always love to imagine people in the past standing in the same spot I am standing in. So many creative people lived here - John Schlesinger, the director of Midnight Cowboy, Diane Warren who wrote so many amazing songs I adore, Richard Gere and Cindy Crawford lived here when they were married and apparently the Dalai Lama came and stayed in the media room when he visited them, and Julie Christie apparently lived in Clare's room too. So these walls could tell a lot of stories. Bentley is so excited to be tweeting now, he has 23 followers and I love each and every one of you for being so sweet and kind to support him. I suppose I take it for granted that I had a book written about me and my blog and have had my fair share of media attention because of that, appearing on TV and such like, but Bentley hasn't had the same attention so he is excited to be able to put his own spin on things. I feel as though he is warming up and finding his little voice but nonetheless he is enjoying it a lot. For those of you who don't know what to do to follow him, you just go to Twitter.com, give yourself a name and then find LoveBentley and click FOLLOW and there you are, regular up to the minute musings from my friend.
Last night we drove down to Venice and had dinner at Steve Shaw's which was delicious. Natasha, Kate, Paul and Clare, all sitting round Steve's dinner table eating the most delicious wild salmon I ever tasted. So thanks for that.
And Clare ate all of it for a change, due to the fact that she went to the doctor to find out the results of her physical and when they'd tested her blood they found that she had a very underactive thyroid so her metabolism has been underactive and causing her to sleep badly, have loss of memory, be irritable and depressed, and she just thought it was normal, so she can eat finally and get her energy levels back up. It's amazing that she didn't even know and just put it down to getting older, so make sure you get regular medical exams to make sure you're as healthy as you can be. So that's all the news this side of the pond, unless Bentley has something to add later today. Love and hugs and kisses to all......